Even on the best of programs. Even on the best of diets. Even with stellar consistency. Sometimes progress just doesn't happen. Physically or mentally.
Last Monday I posted about brining intention to your training.
But let’s try to keep some perspective about it.
I was chatting with a member in the gym, and she was saying that she felt like she has lost her grit in her training. She was “giving up” on weights that normally she would grind through. She felt like her mental fortitude was lagging.
“What’s going on? How do I get my grit back?”
I reminded her that there are a lot of things that’s she is kicking as at outside those few specific heavy attempts.
- She’s been super consistent in coming in.
- She’s having a great time connecting with other members of the gym.
- She’s been more consistent than ever in sticking to an eating paradigm.
- She’s doing awesome work at her job.
We can’t be everything all the time, and your workout is 1 hour out of the day.
In a study by the Harvard Business Review, it was found that the top performing teams gave 5 positive comments for every criticism. This fostered a sense of psychological safety where each person could perform at their best.
Humans have a tendency to disproportionately lock onto the negative. This is thought to be a protective mechanism from a more dangerous time in human evolution. Being cautious and attentive to the bad things helped us survive.
Our lives are pretty cush right now. And yet, that tendency remains.
You can also see it in how traders behave, despite all their training that is supposed to turn them in to automatons of market logic.
“We fear loss because our brain does not assign the same weight to a $100 loss as it does to $100 gain. The happiness at finding $100 on the street doesn’t equate to the frustration of opening your wallet and realizing you lost $100 you needed to pay for something. Think of it this way, not having a relationship with someone isn’t as painful as having someone and then losing them. Our brain typically assigns 2.5 times the weight to a loss, as it does to a gain (Kahneman and Tversky, 1979).” Link
What does this mean for your workouts?
Mostly, when you’re feeling frustrated and like you’ve lost ground or grit, take a moment to step back and appreciate what you DO have going for you.